Beauty from Ashes

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27 Years and Nine Months Ago… February 9, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — katiemears @ 7:34 pm

Twenty-seven years and nine months ago, a scared, 14 year old girl found out she was going to have a baby. How? She asked herself. I had only done “it” once. How could this be? She didn’t know what to do. She was too scared to tell her three siblings or her parents. She was a freshmen in high school. She decided she’d have an abortion. She actually walked in the door of an abortion clinic but couldn’t go through with it. As scary as having a baby was, an abortion was scarier. How could she live with herself?

For the next nine months she hid her secret. She told no one she was pregnant. She wore baggy clothes and hid in her room. She made up excuses about not feeling well so she wouldn’t have to go to school. Her Dad made her go jogging with him because he could see she was gaining weight and needed to exercise.

Then, one February day she went into labor. Knowing this was it, she finally decided she had to tell someone. She told her older sister who then went with her to tell her Mom. Everyone was in shock and upset and scared. They hurried to the hospital and, hours later she gave birth to a beautiful baby boy.

When the baby’s father found out about him, he decided he wanted nothing to do with him. He couldn’t be his! The father’s family got very angry with the mother and her family and they rarely spoke again. The young girl’s family helped her to raise the baby boy over the years. The baby was very close with his grandparents who eventually took on the role of parents, basically. His mom went on to have a daughter 4 years later and another when the boy was 20 years old. He never met his father.

The baby grew into your typical boy-very into sports and things like that. He got into trouble but was mostly a good kid. He grew into a teenager, did well in high school and was the first in his family to go to college. He was friendly, outgoing, and well-liked. The young man graduated from Florida State University and, after submitting his life to the Lord in 2003, went into the minstry. He married that Fall and has been married four and a half years. He is now the proud father of a son who was named after him.

Today, I am the lucky woman who is married to this boy. Every year on his birthday, I reflect back to the gift Michael’s mom gave to him. I can’t imagine becoming a Mom at age 15. We know and she knows she didn’t always do everything right by Michael. Thanks to help from his grandfather “Grandaddy” and his “Grammie” and the rest of his family, he grew to be an amazing man. I am so thankful that, despite her fear and how easy it would have been to abort him and be done with it, she chose to give him life.

Today, he is handsome, faithful, loving, sacrificial, selfless, giving, thoughtful, helpful and full of life. He is an amazing husband, father, son, brother, friend, and minister. He is loved by so many and has touched so many lives. He has brought countless students to Christ, baptized as many, and has pushed hundreds of students to a deeper commitment to the Lord. He is an eloquent, thoughtful, challenging preacher who I am blown away by each time I hear him bring the Word.

He gives 110% to all of his commitments. He sacrifices so much for the good of others. He is committed to his job, his family and most of all, God’s will in his life.

This Saturday we’ll celebrate the 27th anniversary of the day Michael’s mom gave birth to him and gave him a chance at making the most of life. So thankful he was born and I got to be the one to marry him. If you know someone considering abortion, tell them his story. God has a purpose and plan for every unborn baby.

If you can, leave a comment on how my Michael has touched your life…it will be an amazing birthday gift to him and his mother.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. Psalm 139: 13-16


9 Responses to “27 Years and Nine Months Ago…”

  1. Amy Middleton Says:

    Wow! I didn’t know that story. That is amazing. God is so Good! Thank you for sharing that! Happy Birthday Michael!

  2. Janna Hornbaker Says:

    What an amazing story! I cried my eyes out reading this (I’m blaming it on pregnancy hormones!). Thanks for sharing, and a big Happy Birthday to Michael 🙂

  3. Barbara Dieckmann Says:

    To read and see how happy Michael makes you is amazing! I am so glad you found each other and that his mom (and God) gave you the opportunity to do so is wonderful! Happy birthday Michael!!!

  4. Lyell Says:

    Thank you for sharing his story Katie. I know Michael will be blessed by your words…

    Michael has always been a dear friend to me. I first got to know him about 9 years ago in our old youth group. I remember when he was “forced” to come and would sit in the back looking very bored. To see him today always puts a smile on my face. It was a fateful trip with our college group where I got to really know Michael. I remember how he made us all laugh by just rolling down the window (I have no clue why that was so funny). I would later take a trip with him to a Passion conference where our friendship only grew.

    Over the years we’ve become closer and though he might find this strange.. I would honestly call him my closest friend. He was in my wedding party and I was in his…He pushed me to take my own ministry at the time to the next level…never lets me get away with anything…and is always honest. Whenever I need someone to talk to, I know he will listen..

    Michael is truly doing the work of God and it is obvious His hand is upon him. I say this with 100% certainty…that when Michael sees Jesus face to face…Jesus will smile and say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant”..

    Love ya Michael,

    Lyell Walker

    p.s. We’d probably be closer if he didn’t refer to Nick Saban as Satan…

  5. Hillary Says:

    The first time I met Michael he was just the weird guy standing on the opposite side of the net, playing volleyball on Landis during Orientation week. Then, he was that guy whose name I couldn’t remember so he thought I ignored him as we passed each other in the Union. (I’m just really bad with names 🙂 ) Now, I might even describe him as almost a brother. He went from guy I barely knew to becoming my freshmen small group leader, neighbor, co-leader for freshmen group, to landlord, boss, housemate, and above all, friend. His family, Katie, Karah, Kelly, Grammy, Arie, MP, etc are definitely the sweetest people I’ve met in Tallahassee. Him and his family helped me through a rough time. They became my “family” when things at home weren’t going so well.
    He is also just an all-around great friend. I’ve known him since the first week I came to Tally and continued to get to know his family through the five years I’ve been living here. We’ve done everything from co-labor for the Gospel to blaring Ace of Base in the CCF house and play Wii tennis/Killer Bunnies. So much has happened in five years. I would love to include all details but it would take a while. I do remember the night Mike Waers handed him his shoes and the reigns to CCF. I was so excited for him. The Mears’ friendship and kindness definitely means a lot to me. Thank you 🙂

    Happy Birthday El Presidente!! 🙂

  6. Tina Lafoe Says:

    That is an amazing story. It is so encourging to see proof that it doesn’t matter how you start out in the world, you CAN be successful.
    Happy Birthday Michael. Thank you for being such a wonderful husband to Katie and father to Michael Paul. You are quite an amazing man and I am thankful to know you. I look forward to watching your family grow and seeing the amazing things you all accomplish.

  7. Sarah Says:

    What an amazing testimony about choosing life!!! Thank you for sharing Michael’s story

  8. Korie Says:

    Wow. This brought me to tears a little. That is such a touching story. Now I see why Michael is so loving and faithful. But that’s beside the point.
    In these last 5 months of my freshman year in college, Michael has changed the very course of my life. If I would have never gone to that ONE ReUnion and heard that ONE sermon and talked to that ONE man preaching it, I can honestly say my life would be drastically different. Even though he was a tad frightened and a bit unsure of what to do, Michael let me stand there, open up my heart and cry. I don’t think I’ve ever done that with a complete stranger before but something inside of me said it’s okay. Needless to say my walk with Christ is so much stronger. Had it not been for Michael’s encouragement to join a freshman group, I’d probably be at a stand still. I always know he’s there to talk if I need to. I know it’s a year late but happy birthday Michael. You deserve for this to be the best day ever.

  9. Andrew Tew Says:

    Well I didn’t expect to be brought to tears right befor going to bed, but reading this has done so. I am so thankful for the life that Michael Mears has lived, because without him, I definitely wouldn’t be where I am right now. I first met Michael in March of last year while I was visiting FSU for preview day weekend. I asked one of my friends who was at fsu if he knew of a good church that I could try out while visiting, and he recommended one that he himself had never been to but had heard great things about, Crossbridge. There, I just happened to meet this guy who was extremely funny, kind of awkward, and made fun of me for not having a facebook a the the time.This guy was the CCF director himself, Michael Mears!!! However, Michael was extremely intentional with me and I could tell he really cared about me. He told me about CCF and what they were all about as a campus ministry. This meant a lot to me, as I was really unsure about getting involved in a campus ministry and if so which one!!!??? I knew quite a few kids from my high school went to CCF, but that didn’t quite get me sold on joining the ministry. After I talked with Michael, I had this overwhelming sense of peace from God that He wanted me to be where that guy (Michael) would be. So that next fall, I started off my first semester at FSU, and with CCF. I had no idea how much being a part of CCF would have an impact me. In the short time that I’ve been a part of CCF, I have been challenged to grow spiritually, whether its been through Michael’s sermons, my freshman group, or gospel living group. I’ve found mentors, accountability, and built friendships that will probably last till I’m in diapers again!!! I have found a sense of community with brothers and sisters in Christ that I have never experienced in my life. I truly believe that had Michael Mears not been there to take the time to talk with me and show me that he cared about me on that Sunday morning, that I probably would have missed out on this spiritually transforming experience I have had at CCF. God has used the life of Michael Mears to do great things that have glorified Him and had a tremendous impact on others, and I’m one of them. I know God only has even greater things in store for Michael and his family wherever He places them!!! Love you my brother!!! Happy Birthday!!!

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