1 Peter 3:1-6
1 Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5 For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, 6 like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
I have FINALLY gotten back to reading Piper’s book, This Momentary Marriage. I thoroughly enjoyed the first few chapters and even blogged some summaries at the end of last year. I have been able to get back to it this week and, of course, it is still so powerful. This book is definitely going to go on my Must Read list for engaged couples. Pastors, you could even use it as a resource or outline for premarital counseling.
This week, I started chapter 8 entitled, The Beautiful Faith of Fearless Submission. Uh oh…the “S” word. A dirty word in some circles, but Piper does an outstanding job of clearing up the misconceptions of submission by using the unlikely example found in 1 Peter in regards to a believing wife and her unbelieving husband. What I liked best about the chapter was Piper’s 6 points on What Submission is NOT:
1. Submission does not mean agreeing with everything your husband says.
2. Submission does not mean leaving your brain or your will at the wedding altar. (my personal favorite)
3. Submission does not mean avoiding every effort to change a husband.
4. Submission does not mean putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ.
5. Submission does not mean that a wife gets her personal, spiritual strength primarily through her husband.
6. Submission does not mean that the wife is to act out of fear.
And the best part is his definition of what submission is: “Submission is the divine calling of a wife to honor and affirm her husband’s leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts…It is an attitude that says, ‘I delight for you to take initiative in our family. I am glad when you take responsibility for things and lead with love. I don’t flourish in the relationship when you are passive and I have to make sure the family works.'”
Women, married or unmarried, if you have any reservations about submission, I highly recommend this chapter.